Letting Go of the Past

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I once read a comment on Facebook that said, “How do you let go of the past that made you?”  We all know that holding onto the past can keep us in a state of resentment, victimization, powerlessness, and other fear-based emotional states.  We may try not to think about them, but they still lie there buried at a subconscious level, and they affect us just the same.  Until we learn the lessons, we continue to be haunted by the memories, as well as attract similar experiences to the present.  Look at the question again.  Would you agree that your past MADE you?  Are you really the product of your experiences?  Perhaps it would be more realistic to say that you are the product of the PERCEPTION of your experiences.  Or more accurately, the perception of your experiences has added positive and negative thoughts and emotions to your ego-ic consciousness; but you as spirit (recognizing that you are not your body), are no different than the day you were first conceived.

Most of us try not pass judgment on other people, but how often do we place judgement on a particular event or feeling?  The truth is, we judge all the time.  Accidental incidents that caused us physical or emotional harm were judged as bad.  World tragedies were judged as devastating.  Murderer/victim stories were judged as horrific.  And if someone finds out you haven’t been happy, that is unfortunate.  But in truth, all of these are perceptions…judgements…labels.  They are not good, nor bad.  They are experiences that you (or someone else) drew to yourself (or himself).  Perhaps it was your fear-based thoughts.  Perhaps it was karma.  Perhaps you needed to learn something in order to help others down the road.  Perhaps your father died (or left) when you were young, because he would have influenced you away from your path, or kept someone else out of your life that was vital to your purpose.  If we think and act from a positive place, and trust that everything happens for a reason, and nothing comes into our experience that we have not asked for in some way; then we can keep our perceptions of our experiences positive, and keep a negatively labeled past from following us.

In order to release the past that is still haunting you, try this:

  1. Relax and take a few deep breaths.
  2. Recall the event that is bothering you as clearly as you can; or if you don’t remember when the feelings started, simply recall the emotions or anything else your imagination brings forward regarding the issue you are wanting to address.
  3. Accept that you were ignorant about the situation (you did not know what was going on in the other person’s head, you were afraid of future consequences, you did not know the reason or necessity for the event, etc.)
  4. Forgive yourself for your negative perception of the event, and forgive anyone else involved, including God or the universe.  This may require feeling compassion for someone else who has many faults to address.  If so, purposely feel love and understanding for this person.
  5. Embrace/love the event.  It was for a purpose that you may or may not understand, but important experiences of this world have a grand design, and everything that happens is free will expressing itself, even where someone appears to be a victim.  In truth, there are no victims.  By embracing the event, you change your perception of it, and it becomes neutral.

Remember that you are spirit.  Any negative thoughts come from the ego, which is a temporary part of you that you can release at any time.  Your spirit knows only love, but it takes forgiveness and acceptance to heal the ego.

 

About the author

Vicki Luibrand is a hypnotherapist, certified by the National Guild of Hypnotists (NGH), and has a Doctor of Divinity in Spiritual Healing Arts.  She guides people to heal themselves both physically and mentally by finding and releasing buried emotions in the subconscious mind.  For more information, go to www.believeinhealth.biz.

Vicki Luibrand
Vicki Luibrand is a hypnotherapist, certified by the National Guild of Hypnotists (NGH), and has a Doctor of Divinity in Spiritual Healing Arts. She guides people to heal themselves both physically and mentally by finding and releasing buried emotions in the subconscious mind. For more information, go to www.believeinhealth.biz.